No Killers Here.
Thank you, Brenda Rothman.
My kid was dissed at his old high school today. Paranoia from the office workers. They knew him, yet they wouldn’t call the teacher he was invited there to see. He called me to come back and show them the proof (email from the teacher on my phone). They even gave ME the once-over. (Like I was ever a PITA to secretaries??? Um, No.)
Maybe they felt vulnerable. Thank you, asshole media. But he visits there all the time - he was in there last night for the band concert, he goes in to talk to other autistic students about college every so often.
Now, I guess that Newtown just gives everyone a reason to be mean to autistic people? Far be it from me to explain to peons like them how that kind of treatment hurts good people. Autistic or not.
And I would not hesitate to resurrect my Hulk persona, IF son had realized what they did. Sometimes his autie vision is a blessing in disguise. He thought that maybe they didn’t recognize him because of his goatee. I can’t bring myself to tell him that it was the Stigma.
I know, I have to. Can I wait until after the holidays?
We don’t know the circumstances that brought the Connecticut shooter to kill people. We don’t know his home life, his network of support or lack of it, or his childhood experiences. We may never know. And that leaves us with the uncomfortable feeling of vulnerability.
But it is better for us to struggle with our uncomfortable feeling, better for us to consider the possibility that we might never know, rather than make an entire class of persons out to be scapegoats, simply because they have a communication disorder.
You don’t want to live in fear for your children. I don’t either. I don’t want to live in fear for my child, my friends’ children, or my autistic friends, who will be put at risk for discrimination, bullying, teasing, or abuse, merely for having a communication disorder and sensory issues.
We all want our children and our schools to be safe, to feel like safe places to be. Let’s look at other reasons, factual reasons that put us in danger. But don’t blame autism.